In this episode, Roy responds to a question from a parent: "How do I get my teen to do what they don't want to do?" Roy explores the various factors involved in both the parent(s)' asking of the question and the teenager's refusal to do something the parent [...]
In this episode of Today's Teenager, Roy offers three keys to to communicating effectively with teens. For more about Roy, including contact information, click here to visit Today's Teenager.
In this episode of Today's Teenager, Roy discusses the importance of apologize to teenagers and why apologizing is so critical to relationships with teens. For more about Roy, including contact information, click here to visit Today's Teenager.
In this episode Roy discusses why "telling teens what to do" does not work and offers a three step process, based in curiosity and listening, to help adults positively influence today's teenagers. To get Roy's newest ebook "Little Book of Questions that Really Get Teens Talking" go to todaysteenager.com and [...]
In this episode of Today's Teenager, Roy explains the differences between communicating and connecting with teens. Roy suggests that when adults who work with teens or parents of teens say they want to learn to better communicate with teens, they're really seeking deeper connection. Roy offers three strategies [...]
In this first episode in a series on having hard conversations with teens, Roy discusses the "anatomy" of a difficult conversation with a young person on a topic that is sensitive, timely, and/or emotionally charged. Various factors can discussing such topics even more difficult, like a history [...]
Summer marks the end of what is, for most parents and teens, a grueling academic year filled with a multitude of stressors like studying, school and athletic-related activities, not to mention the busy nature of work and family life. As Roy points out in this week's episode, the [...]
In this episode, Roy discusses the struggle many adults have when working with teens: reacting instead of responding to their behavior. Roy builds on Dr. Steven Covey's observation that humans have a gap between a stimulus and response and that this gap can be widened through forethought and [...]
It's common for teens to say things to us or about us that provoke strong emotions in us. In this episode, Roy offers strategies to avoid inflicting your emotional reaction on your teen while also acknowledging the incident instead of pretending it didn't happen. Among the strategies Roy [...]
Today's teenagers expect and demand authenticity from parents and other adults who want to be in relationship with them. This principle, like so many things in my life, I learned the hard way. One Summer while in grad school, I taught catechism classes to a group of 13 year old [...]
